Many years ago, when I was feeling frustrated with the kinds of men I attracted, I took a workshop regarding finding the love you deserve. A good workshop that delved into analyzing your past decisions and where those choices took you, as well as questioning your present state and where you want to go.
I learned I was not clear about what I wanted in a man. I seemed to go for the superficial stuff, totally ignoring the essence of the person. The workshop helped me turn my thinking around and it was then I began looking for the 'essence' of the man I would want to marry.
My man would be kind, gentle, respectful, honest, trustworthy, loyal, comforting, loving, and on and on and on. So many adjectives, so little time...
It took a few years to find him, but I knew in my heart that he was 'the one'. Who? The man I dated when I was a sophomore in college...all those years ago...45 years, to be exact.
I owe it to my daughter who introduced me to Facebook so I could see pictures of my grandchildren. She also introduced me to the concept of reconnecting with friends from the past, "You know, Mom, high school, college, people you've met along the way."
I went on Facebook in January. In March, we reconnected. We have been inseparable ever since.
You may ask, "Seriously, Karen, what is the essence you were looking for that he provided?" Unconditional love! He loves me unconditionally. I can be myself, warts and all, and he loves me for it. Honestly, if it were any one else and that person had to live with my "warts", he'd be gone; but my husband loves me just as I am. And...I love him back, unconditionally.
Unconditional love is contagious.